Only partway through writing this post for my other blog, but decided to share a few thoughts here because I’m still getting asinine comments on my hair, including a response stating that I was “harsh” in telling anonymous that my preference for my appearance was more important than anonymous’s preference for my appearance. Please, if possible collect all the tears my “harsh” response is causing and mail them to me—I need a new moisturizer.
Anyway, the point of the post I’m writing is: I didn’t color my hair to be pretty. This isn’t a complaint post and I don’t need a boost of “but you do look pretty” cause I’m a ok with my hair, but rather a gentle reminder that myself and many women out there don’t actually change their hair or pick their clothes in order to be more attractive (to anyone). Beauty is subjective anyway and some people will prefer me with long hair and others with short and my boyfriend is a big fan of the blue—in the end those opinions are irrelevant, what matters is how I like my hair. Crazy thought I know. But even that is an aside from the point: I didn’t dye my hair teal because I thought I’d look better with it. When I look in the mirror in the morning it’s not like I see my hair and go “oh yes +10 cuteness points for me!” Rather it’s more like, “yay, one of my favorite colors is on my head, I get to carry this around with me all day long.” Having things I like around me is the goal: I want my bedroom filled with my favorite novels and I want to wear clothes that I like because of they way they look on their own—some color or pattern that appeals to me. I have a myriad of reasons I choose clothes and change my hair and none of it is about my body having more curb appeal. It’s strange that an argument still needs to be made that women might not alter their appearance in order to look pretty.
Short story: I honestly do not care if I am uglier with the blue hair. I don’t have to be attractive.